The "selfphone" era
We’ve all been there. You have a thirty-minute break or a sudden gap in your schedule. What is the very first thing you do?
Let’s be honest: you reach for your phone. You check the news, you scroll through social media, and you start commenting on things happening behind a screen rather than engaging with the world in front of you.
The invisible walk in the Meeting Room
I am writing this very post from a meeting room. I’m sitting here with three colleagues, waiting for a meeting to start. We are all physically in the same space, yet every single one of us is staring into a palm-sized screen.
I call it the "Selfphone"—because we use it to focus so much on our own digital bubbles that we forget the people sitting three feet away. I’m doing it right now; even though I’m writing something meaningful for my blog, I still have this "thing" in my hands, acting as a barrier between me and my coworkers.
The Deasth of Boredom
We have become terrified of silence. We avoid the simple, quiet act of "doing nothing." By constantly filling our "waiting moments" with scrolling, we are losing our ability to reflect, to observe, and to simply be.
This isn’t just a bad habit; it’s a shift in our social development. We are trading spontaneous conversation for a curated feed.
The Multi - Screen Paradox
The invasion is everywhere. Yesterday, I realized my house was glowing with glass: Tv was on, laptop was open, and my phone was in my hand
We often complain about the younger generation and their "screen time." We worry about how it affects children’s development, but we rarely look in the mirror. Kids aren't "suckers"—they are mimics. If they see us finding our joy, our distraction, and our "rest" through a constant scroll, they will do the same. They are simply adapting to the new era that we created.
If we want the next generation to look up, we have to be the first ones to turn the screens off.
But really when was the last time you sat in a room with others and no one looked at a phone?