Dating Apps and the Death of the Unknown

Whatever you’re looking for—sex, marriage, or just company—there is an app for it. People say bars are dead, so they’ve pinned all their hopes on a screen.

It’s like shopping for a used car. You see the photos—the six-packs, the tiny bikinis—and you read the bio to see the "specs." You know exactly what you’re getting. On paper, it’s convenient. You don’t "waste time" on someone who wants a wedding if you only want a one-night stand. But in this rush for convenience, we’ve lost the magic. Where is the mystery? Where is the discovery of the unknown?

We live in an era where we are terrified of surprises. We want everything pre-defined and agreed upon, like a legal contract. We treat life like a business where every deal must be a "success" and risk is forbidden. But life isn't a business where you just protect your initial capital. Life is meant to be lived. You make mistakes, you grow, and you end up with stories to tell your grandchildren.

Even the "drama" of ghosting serves a purpose. If you know exactly when the dinner, the sex, and the ghosting will happen, it becomes flat. There’s no feeling—not even a bad one. Without the risk of a cry or the tension of waiting, we are just left with a flat, sentimental void.

Do you really want to live without the unknown?